There’s No Shame In Your Struggle (Or Anyone Else’s)

Riley Coules
May 9, 2017

I’m going to explicate a formula that should serve as the entire foundation on which you perceive the problems of others as well as how they respond to them.



Keeping the principles of non-judgment and an infinite amount of understanding in mind…


If you don’t understand every single angle of another’s struggle, don’t judge it.

If you think you understand every single angle of nir struggle, consider that you don’t.

If nir response to that struggle does not resemble the reaction you imagine you would have, recognize that you are two different people with entirely different backgrounds, belief systems, and motives; your right doesn’t equate to nir wrong.

With the aforementioned premise in mind, consider that you don’t actually know how you would respond to nir strife if you faced one of the same kind.

If you think the motives of another are anything but based in malice, refrain from assuming you know what that motive is as well as what mindsets drive it (including those grounded in the altered personality). While we can certainly reach a moral consensus, we are all learning souls and must be given the opportunity to grow–maybe even repeated opportunities, if necessary.

If you think nir motives are consistently based in malice, avoid the person in question unless repeated actions prove too detrimental to avoid.

In which case, eradicate nir negativity from your life; don’t impose your own on nirs.

Above all else, have sympathy for the struggles of others and the mistakes they make as a result; you have surely messed up before too. We all have different lessons to learn in this lifetime.

Your struggle is no better than anyone else’s.