What You Need: A Cognitive Approach

 Riley Coules
August 16, 2016

Due to the modernization of society, in which the availability of essentials prevail, the term “need” is often confused with want, would feel better off if/would make things easier if x were to happen, could not fathom a reality in which x did not happen, etc.

 

Sickness, especially in its prolonged state, humbles the psuedo-need of the privileged.

 

Before I became sick, my needs were as follows:

I need new clothes.

I need a haircut.

I need to go for a run.

I need more energy.

I need coffee.

I need a break.

I need more money.

I need others to provide me with happiness.

I need to keep busy.

I need x amount done in x amount of time.

I need distractions.

I need my mom.

I need a substance to put me in the right mindset.

I need others/the external to stop stressing me out.

I need x right now.

I need, I need, I need.

 

 

My journey to health has not only taught me how to cope with temporary struggles, but how to manage them long-term if they cannot be resolved: by labeling them as wants, not needs.

 

I need new clothes for winter.

You have enough.

I need a haircut.

Your image isn’t as important as your health.

I need to go for a run.

You don’t have the energy for this. You are as strong as your mind, not your body.

I need more energy.

It will be months before you have this, if ever. By relinquishing control of your body, you will gain control of your mind.

I need coffee.

You can focus and motivate yourself with your own gumption.

I need more money.

You need enough money to nourish yourself.

I need others to provide me with happiness.

You must learn to be enough for yourself.

I need to keep busy.

This allows you to avoid the root of your restlessness: your incessant desire to fulfill. Unearth the means to tranquility in the present moment and do not fear your mind.

I need x amount done in x amount of time.

You first need to focus on healing. Do not push yourself beyond the point of no return (in which you are so physically compromised you hinder your mental faculties). Your body is not invincible, but your mind is if you take care of yourself.

I need distractions.

Why? To avoid facing your issues head on? This lies in the fact that you fear coping with your emotions, for you are incapable of overcoming strife- when in reality, you are as capable as you allow yourself to be.

I need my mom.

She should be here, could be here, would be here, but she can’t be. Focus on what is, not what isn’t, and manifest your own will to achieve the emotional stability you crave.

I need a substance to put me in the right mindset.

You don’t need anything but yourself. You contrive your reality for you control the course of your thoughts.

I need others/the external to stop stressing me out.

Remember The Veil. You must maintain a transparent barrier between you and the outside world. This barrier does not equate to lack of emotion, compassion, or even reaction itself; it merely indicates you will filter the anxiety out of a stressor before it reaches your inner world of peace and harmony. In doing so, you will react to that stressor with rationale, a clear mind, and a peaceful soul.

I need to feel secure/in control.

The Universe is testing your security to the utmost degree. You are challenged in more ways than one: physically, mentally, emotionally, financially, socially, etc. You must work through the source of your insecurities (i.e. I’m afraid I won’t be able to sleep tonight, I’m afraid of my hypoglycemia, I’m afraid to go through this alone, I’m afraid of my heart palpitations, etc.) to overcome them. Again, the realization that instability is merely a reflection of your own disbelief in your ability to conquer all obstacles will free you of the desire to control its course.

I need x right now.

Currently you need the substances that will keep you alive and progressing. Right now applies only to these needs. Patience, and along with this the acceptance of your present condition, will allow you to find peace in what you cannot manipulate in your favor.

I need, I need, I need.

You want, you want, you want.

 

The Affirmations:

Find peace in your present condition.

Accept what you cannot control.

Do not accept your perceived inability to control your thoughts.

Harness your power & believe in the limitless energy stores you create for yourself.

These energy stores will keep you mentally and emotionally well, even if your physicality is compromised.

You decide how strong you are; accept it, believe it, manifest it.

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